Thursday, December 14, 2006

More Nuggets of Gold

Always end conversations, meetings, and phone calls
I got this idea from the book The Rules by Ellen Fein
and Sherrie Schneider...You remember that book that
was written about how to get a man to marry you? Well,
it’s a great book. But I don’t think the authors would like
the reasons why I think it’s great. I take all of ‘the rules’
and turn them around. When you play the games that
women often play, you will not believe the responses
you’ll get.
Now, I used to be against any kind of ‘game playing’.
I still don’t like lies, cheating, general dishonesty, or
manipulation. BUT, when you use these things in the right
way, it becomes kind of a ‘game’ that women LOVE to
play. It’s strange, but women love to tease and be
teased. And if you don’t take this stuff too seriously, you
can have some real fun.
But, I digress... The reason to end conversations,
calls, and meetings first is that it does two things: First, it
says, “I’m not a needy guy, and I have things to do. I’m
busy and if you want me, you’re going to have to work to
get me.”
Second, it sets up a situation where YOU are in
control of the situation. If you start doing this with EVERY
call, EVERY meeting, and EVERY conversation, you will be
blown away by the responses you’ll get.
You’ll have women say, “What? But we’re having so
much fun...!”, “Well, when can I see you again?”, or
“Don’t you like me?”
By the way, don’t take the bait when they say these
things! Say, “Of course I like you, and of course I’m
having fun – but I’m busy and I have things to do. So call
me tomorrow and maybe I can get together with you at
the end of the week.”
I LOVE THIS!!! Love it! Love it! Love it!
And women love it too. As much as you might think
it’s cruel and unusual punishment, women love nothing
more than to go home wondering, “Does he love me?
Does he like me? Will he call me? Did he have fun?”

I know, I know... sounds too bizarre to be true, but
trust me. Tease and do these things, and you’ll find that
they’ll work like a charm... plus have the added bonus of
being damn fun!
***I have to insert here that I’ve given this advice to
many needy man who have rejected it whole heartedly.
They continue to act needy and not let women go at the
end of the night, when talking on the phone, etc. By not
making themselves scarce and unusual, they make
themselves valueless. Don’t make the same mistake
Another one that I use often is ‘Don’t say caring and
affectionate things directly – but say them indirectly’.
Women have a love for metaphors, demonstrations,
stories, gifts, etc.
For instance, saying, “You’re beautiful” 12 times a day
isn’t attractive, but writing a poem that says it and
leaving it somewhere as a surprise is very attractive.
Also, if I’m appreciating something about a woman, I
point to a specific part or thing or detail. Women love it
when you NOTICE things.
This reminds me of a very important point: Women
LOVE it when you THINK about them. If you say, “I was
thinking about you, so I wrote you” the woman will have
something inside go ‘click’! I believe that women like gifts
not because they have value, but because they say, “I
was thinking about you, I have these feelings for you, and
this gift is a symbol for them.”
Does this make sense to you?
I didn’t think so. It didn’t to me, either. But IT’S
TRUE. So start telling women that you were thinking
about them, that you were remembering times with
them, and that something reminded you of them. If you

do this, you don’t have to buy gifts anymore! They know
you’re thinking about them! Nice.
Here’s something else that I’ve figured out that
doesn’t make any sense at all: Women love ‘Mismatched
Communication’. What I mean by this is that women like
it when you’re doing one thing serious and one thing
jokingly, or being verbally tough, but physically
Let me give you a couple of examples.
If you’re talking to a woman and telling her that you
think she’s beautiful, keep a very SERIOUS look on your
face. This adds all kinds of drama to the situation and
gives the woman something to imagine all kinds of deep
meanings. (By the way, most men smile too much. Smile
less when talking to women. It will keep them wondering
what you’re thinking and it will help you.)
Or while kissing a woman, reach down and bite her on
the neck, just a tiny bit too hard (no blood please).
One thing tender, one thing slightly violent.
Or maybe you’ve just finished holding her hand and
kissing her. When she stands up, give her a spank on the
ass and tell her it was because she’s such a good kisser.
The idea here is that what you’re feeling is causing
you to do something IRRATIONAL. You’ve being swept
away by the moment. Or you’re experiencing conflicting
feelings. This leaves it to her to figure out what you’re
‘REALLY’ feeling, which women love to do.
It also makes you the most interesting, unpredictable
guy she’s ever met.
You know, another thing that I’ve noticed is that
women LOVE to talk about sex. Most men are not

comfortable bringing up the subject with women they
don’t know. But try telling a couple of dirty jokes, or
talking about a sex program you saw on T.V. Most women
will jump right in and start giving their take on the topic.
It’s amazing. Try it.

1 comment:

Rochak Agrawal said...

Brilliant Nuggets... looks like you have gone through all of them on your own. Thks! Hope I can implement them as well as you do :)