Underneath all of the beauty, most of these powerful
women have a ‘shadow’ or dark side.
This dark side is secretly wanting a man who is in
control of himself, his reality, and them.
But they’d never admit it – often not even to
themselves.
But their unconscious knows and recognizes this
desire as something that they want. They also hold a kind
of inner CONTEMPT for the weak people (especially men)
who give them everything they want, as is evidenced by
the “Oh, he’s just a guy I use to buy me things and “He’s
my ‘Boytoy’ kind of comments that women often make to
their girlfriends.
On the topic of men giving gifts to women and buying
them things: Many women will take what is available to
them (even if they have to do a little manipulation for it),
but they will ultimately resent and disrespect a man who
gives too much to them.
As a matter of fact, to most hot women, THEIR
REALITY is that men kiss up to them and give them what
they ask for or demand (worst case, they have to get
upset or act bitchy to get their way). AGAIN, THIS IS
THEIR REALITY. Men who don’t fit this mold are often just
tuned out as if they didn’t exist in order to keep this
reality as pure as possible for them.
(Also, I think that many women harbor contempt for
their beauty. At a shadow level, they are kept from living
a real life and being closer to the real world simply
because fewer and fewer people can relate to them in
proportion to how ‘beautiful’ they are and make
themselves. Addressing this topic when speaking to
women is VERY powerful. More later.)
Men are often behaving like ass kissers because they
are afraid that a woman might get upset and leave. The
fact is that by acting this way, a woman is MORE likely to
leave. It’s one of those paradoxes that’s a self-fulfilling
prophesy. If a woman whines, a man might begin to
think, “Oh, no... I need to kiss her ass or she might
leave. Even though she’s being ridiculous, I have to go
along with it...”
This is bad for her, for you, and for the relationship between you.
Learn to never let a woman act like a Brat
without you calling her on it (AND IN A COOL, ALMOST
INDIFFERENT WAY!)
This is very counter-intuitive, but again, we’re dealing
with female human behavior, which has roots and drives
that are complex and often difficult to trace.
The solution is to NOT kiss ass or do things for them
like everyone else. Be different. Expect them to pull their
own weight, call them on all of their issues and messed-
up behaviors just like you would a guy friend or family
member (Use the same “you’re my friend and I’m saying
this for your benefit” tone that you’d use with a friend),
tease and make fun of their insecurities in a playful way,
reframe other men who kiss their ass, and put beauty in a
new light (as a curse, etc., how she can never have
anyone see her for who she truly is, how every man she
knows would sleep with her in a minute, and how it often
leads to less inner fulfillment).
The fact is that women will sleep with rich men who
kiss their asses and model-handsome guys who don’t
treat them well to satisfy their PHYSICAL drives.
But overall, an average looking man who takes good
care of himself and makes enough money to live
comfortably who is cocky, direct, challenging, confident,
funny, and in control - one who challenges her constantly
and never kisses her ass EVER - will be FAR more fulfilling
to a beautiful woman than the other types.
This difference is not only interesting to her, but it’s
also challenging as well (something she doesn’t
experience often). A man who does such will not only be
able to win her body, but also her interest and
fascination. It will also keep her messed up behaviors
more in check while allowing you to stay more in control
of the situation.
***Note: If any of this stuff sounds too far out for
you, I recommend that you go out to a mall and find
yourself a few really beautiful women. Then ask them to
read the last few pages of this book and to tell you the
accuracy of this material. If you’re a doubter, you won’t
believe the responses you’ll get. I’ve asked many
beautiful women about these ideas and almost EVERY
ONE OF THEM has told me that this line of thinking is
accurate.
You’ll also notice out in the real world that some
fortunate men have the looks, fame, personality, or
whatever that causes women to act naturally open and
receptive to them.
If you’re one of these men, then congrats to you!
If you’re not one of these men (I’m not, so I
understand what it’s like) then you have to LEARN how to
get inside of a woman’s mind and heart and CAUSE her to
start acting this way toward you. It may take a few
minutes of conversation, or even up to an hour or so...
but if you learn the skills that I’m going to teach you, you
can learn how to cause women to act this way toward
you, too.
Remember, attraction has different roads that lead to
it. Some are easy shortcuts, but some take a little longer,
present more challenges, and require more skill. But
there is a structure to the process and if you learn that
structure, you will be more successful.
