Thursday, December 14, 2006

Personality Traits That Attract Women

In the next chapter, I’m going to describe MY
particular unique personality and the ‘character’ that I
become when I’m meeting women.
But before I do that, I’d like to talk about some of the
different personality traits that women find most
attractive. Some are better when used with others, and
some don’t work well together. Here is the list with brief
descriptions. I’ll talk more about combining these later.
• Funny. Humor is just plain powerful with women.
If you can keep her laughing, you will go far.
• Intelligent and Creative. Intelligence is sexy IF
it’s used in a way that’s interesting to her. Use your
creativity and intelligence to surprise her with
ideas, fantasies, and unexpected things that charm
• Educated. Education is attractive to women as
long as it’s used in an interesting way. Some
women are actually intimidated by education,
which usually works in your favor.
• Classy and Cultured. If you have class, women
pick up on it. Do your shoes and belt match? Do
you understand interior design and color contrast?
Do you know about different types of wine? Do you
like foreign movies? Do you understand fashion?
Do you like Frank Sinatra? Do you enjoy exotic
foods? Do you serve her Hors d’oeuvres and a glass
of wine when she visits? Do you open all doors for
her? Women notice this stuff BIG TIME.
• Dominant. Women have an unconscious attraction
to dominant men. The dominant males in some
primate groups account for up to 75% of all the
matings, while the less dominant males go without
any. Same goes for humans.
• Thoughtful. Women don’t just like gifts; they like
knowing that you were THINKING of them. The gift
is a SYMBOL. Women feel the same amount of
good inside whether it’s a card or a diamond (of
course, the diamond lasts longer, so there are
more ‘times of feeling good’!). But the fact is that
women like to know that you’re thinking about
them. Even if you’re telling a woman that you don’t
like it that she was out with another guy, she’ll like
it because it means you were thinking about her!
• Notices Significant Details. Women don’t just
notice details; they USE them to try to be
attractive and attentive. If she is wearing a sexy
outfit, she didn’t put it on by accident. If her hair is
done nicely, it wasn’t a fluke. Women are very
impressed and attracted to men who notice these
Unpredictable/Predictable. Here’s a paradox.
Women are drawn to men who they can’t control or
predict. They obsess over guys who flirt, give them
attention, and then don’t call the next day.
Predictability is only attractive when it comes to
choosing a HUSBAND. Then a woman usually wants
a man who’s VERY predictable.
• Enthusiastic, Fun, Happy. Nothing is a bigger
turn-off than a killjoy. Some men get upset and
pout when a woman is happy and try to put down
the things that she enjoys to sound superior, which
is usually a HUGE mistake. Enthusiasm is infectious
and attractive.
• Adventurous. Women are instantly attracted to
men who like to do extreme, adventurous, unusual,
and even dangerous things. It’s exciting.
Adventurism is sexy.
• Aggressive. Women love men that know what
they want and go after it. Passion is a sign of life.
I’m not talking about the kind of aggressive that
turns into date rape. I’m talking about the kind of
aggressive that turns into setting a goal and then
going after it with passion and getting it no matter
• Confident/Cocky. Women are magnetically
attracted to men who are just a little bit too cocky.
Just a little bit. This is a tough one to explain. Many
men take this to mean ‘overly arrogant’, which is
not what I mean. If you watch Pierce Brosnan in
‘The Thomas Crown Affair’, Clarke Gable in ‘Gone
With The Wind’, or Tom Cruise in ‘Top Gun’, you’ll
get an idea of what I’m talking about. The
confident/cocky trait is mild overconfidence
combined with humor. Drives women wild.
• Expertise. If you’re an expert in an area that is
interesting to your kind of woman, this can be
attractive. It needs to be presented from a “I know
a lot about this, let me show you” perspective and
not a “I’m cool and you’re not” angle.
• Attention. Women like attention. And interestingly
enough, it’s better to hint at the attention that
you’re giving them than to be too overt about it. If
you say, “I was thinking about you earlier today,
and I just wanted to mention that I really like the
sound of your voice...” it’s much more powerful
than listening to them complain about something
so they think you’re paying attention. Get it?
• Disinterest, Indifference, a Challenge. Most
women are used to being pursued by men in one
way or another. If you are indifferent to a woman,
make her think that you’re only calling because
you’re bored and act almost disinterested sexually,
they’ll often do their very best to get your
attention. Different is good in this case. Again, this
drives most women crazy, and even though they’d
hate to admit it, it’s ultra interesting to them.
• Charm (attention with a polished, smooth
approach). This is hard to describe. Watch a James
Bond movie to get an idea. And watch ‘Dirty Rotten
Scoundrels’. Pay attention to Michael Caine’s
character. Charm is powerful because it has a
certain ‘prince on a white horse’ aspect to it.
• Romantic Imagination and Perspective. Watch
the movie ‘Don Juan DeMarco’ and listen to how
Don Juan interprets the world. Instead of just
looking at the surface of a woman, he looks within
her to find the beautiful part. A romantic
imagination sees opportunities for poetic
comments, interesting stories, fascinating history,
and emotional interpretation in everything.
• Expert in Body Language. This is important, as
women are constantly sending signals. I’ll talk
more about this in a later chapter.
• Sexual Mastery. Women love sex just as much as
men do. But just like everything else in life, a great
lover is not easy to find. Women become instantly
addicted to skillful lovers who know how to make
them feel ecstasy and teach them new ways of
feeling incredible.
Every woman is slightly different. There is no one
magic system to which every woman responds. If what
you’re doing doesn’t work, don’t throw out the system...
try it on a different woman.
The most successful men I know will tell you that they
are only successful because they are able to accept ‘no’
and not take it personally. Again, unsuccessful men take
a ‘rejection’ as a personal assault on their inner child.
Don’t make this mistake.
So start right now. Take a moment and describe the
type of woman you’d like to attract and write down the
qualities that you think will attract her. Then go to work
cultivating these qualities.
The idea is to create your own winning combination
and then find a place to use it that offers the best
chances for success. You want to come across as
interesting, unique, original, and desirable.
By the way, if you don’t know what the women who
you’re interested in are attracted to, ASK! That’s right,
just walk up to them whenever you see one and say,
“Can I ask you a question? I’m sure that you’re probably
in a relationship right now, but will you tell me
something... I want to know what it is that attracts a
woman like you to a man. What do you look for?”
You’ll find that most of the women you pose this
question to will be glad to tell you. As a matter of fact,
you’ll even find that some will help you in other ways if
you ask. They’ll go shopping with you, help you decorate
your house, help you choose a hairstyle... everything.
But most guys are afraid to ask, or they feel like a
puss because they are asking a woman for help. Do
yourself a favor. If you are having trouble, get help.
Women are amazingly generous when they are helping a
man get his ‘attractiveness’ together.

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